Friend Makin' Mondays - Courtesy of Kenlie

I was reading a blog post by Kenlie at http://www.alltheweigh.com/ and she had a post called "Friend Makin' Mondays" which helps you learn about your fellow bloggers and connect to other bloggers.  I thought it was a neat idea, so here you go....

If you’ve taken part in FMM then you know the rules.  If you’re new, please take a moment to answer this week’s questions on your own blog then add your link in the comments section at: http://www.alltheweigh.com/ so everyone can all see your FMM questions and answers. Please invite your blog readers to add their links there too so everyone has to opportunity to be seen. The idea is to connect with other awesome bloggers so take a moment to post your own FMM post and comment on a couple of other posts. Now it’s time for this week’s topic!


FMM: Q & A

1. What’s the most obnoxious word/phrase you use on a regular basis?
"Seriously!"  I think I picked it up from Grey's Anatomy and I say it all of the time.

2. What’s the most memorable bumper sticker you’ve ever seen?
I saw one that said, "If you can read this you're too close.  Stop tailgating or I'll flick a booger on your windshield."  Crude, but funny.

3. Share one pet peeve that causes you more grief than it should.
Being that I'm a total control freak with OCD, there are lots of things that bug me.  Mostly, I just try to ignore most of them.  I would say the one that bugs me the most is when the toilet paper is on the roll incorrectly.  It goes OVER, not under!  Have you ever seen the toilet paper under at a hotel?  I haven't.  I rest my case! 

4. What are your thoughts on re-gifting presents?
I've only done it once.  I was invited to a last-minute wedding and I needed a gift to take.  I had received these silver candle holders as a gift.  I knew I would never use them, so I re-gifted them. 

5. What was your biggest accomplishment this week?
I shot a tennis ball at about 50 yards with a .22 pistol.  I bought a pistol to learn how to target shoot.  I've been to the range about 4 times now, and I'm getting better every week.  My husband said I'm a better shot than he is.  So, intruders beware!

6. What’s the title of the last movie you watched?
"The Dilemma."  It was somewhat funny, but I wouldn't pay money to rent it.  Wait for it to come to cable.

7. If you could only choose one, would you rather have a full-time cleaning person or a full-time chef?
Cleaning person.  I don't mind cooking, but I hate cleaning.

8. Do you enjoy shopping for clothes, or do you dread it?
Both.  It's difficult to find clothes that fit me properly being a larger woman.  If I find something I like, half the time they don't have my size.  It's very annoying.  But I love new clothes.

9. What’s your favorite sport to play/watch?
I like to play volleyball.  I absolutely LOVE to watch college basketball.  Specifically, the University of Louisville Cardinals.  I'm a total addict.  I tend to yell at the television and clap and pump my fist in the air when I'm watching my game.  My older dog, Peppy (16), is used to this behavior and ignores me.  However, my younger dog, Scarlet (6), gets very nervous when I'm watching the game.  We've only had her about 2 years and she thinks she's in trouble when I start yelling at the TV.  She has to be reassured repeatedly that she isn't in trouble.  I hope some day she'll get used to my loud fanatic behavior.

10. If you could have coffee with anyone today who would you choose?
Well, I don't drink coffee, but I would want to have an iced tea with Jesus.
Now it’s your turn. Make sure you come back and link up in the comments. Thanks for sharing and thanks for visiting my blog!

Friends

Tech Junkie

Have I ever discussed my addiction to all things electronic?  I don't think I have.  It's an expensive hobby, much to the chagrin of my husband.  I absolutely love tech gadgets.  I can't really afford to have everything I want (but really, who can afford it these days), but I get things a little at a time.

I've always loved computers. I remember getting a Commodore 64 for Christmas.  Remember this?  It wasn't good for much.  I just used it to play games.  My favorite game was called "Bucks."  It was kind of like the game of Life.  You would be given a question and based on your answer, an outcome would be given.  You would either make money or lose money.   

I remember playing games on the Apple II in junior high. It was a much better computer.  We played a game called Oregon Trail in computer lab.  This was another game where you would be given a situation and based on your response, an outcome would be given.  The goal of the game was to get your family across the country and a horse-drawn wagon.  Sometimes people in your family would die based on your decisions.  It was definitely an interesting game.  I always looked forward to the days we got to go to the computer lab.

In 1993 after I graduated high school, I got my first full-time job working at Walmart.  I bought my first CD player using my 10% employee discount.  It had dual cassette players and a CD player.  I remember my first CDs purchased were Janet Jackson's "janet" and Prince's "The Hits."  I still have those CDs and enjoy listening to them.

When I first started college in 1994, I bought a Brother Word Processor.  It was mostly a pain to use because you could only see about 3 or 4 lines at a time.  However, it did let you type the whole document before you print it.  It was much better than trying to write a paper on a typewriter.
 

Before too long, my Dad bought a Packard Bell computer.  It had a Pentium Processor and a 1 Gigabyte hard drive.  I thought it was the greatest thing since sliced bread.  This computer opened up a whole new world to me.  I discovered the Internet and AOL and a whole new life began for me.  I met my husband on AOL and moved from Kentucky to Arizona.  (See this post for the story:  http://melissawphotos.blogspot.com/2008/06/ramsey-canyon-arizona.html)

While I was living in Arizona, my husband and I didn't really have much money, so I didn't acquire any new gadgets.  We moved back to Kentucky in 1999.  After he and I started working full-time, I started getting new gadgets again.

In 2000, we got a Philips Surround Sound system for Christmas.  My husband and I both really enjoy movies, so this was a great new addition for us.  Around that same time I started really getting into expressing myself artistically.  I started with acrylic painting.  I do okay as a copycat, but I don't have any real natural talent for painting.  I liked taking photos and I really wanted a digital camera.  They were really just starting to hit the retail market.

My husband got me a Sony Mavica for either my birthday or Christmas, I don't remember which.  It used a 3.5" floppy diskette to store the photographs.  I bought lots of floppy diskettes.  The photo quality was okay if you wanted to print 4x6 photos, but anything larger than that, the quality was pretty bad.  I believe this was a $499 camera at the time.

I decided I wanted an SLR film camera, so my husband bought me a Nikon N65.  I still have this camera, but I haven't used it in a few years.  It's just too expensive to get film developed anymore.

I really wanted a better digital camera, so my husband bought me a Kodak Easyshare camera for my birthday.  It got a whole lot of use too.  This one used an SD Card, so it was a lot easier to store photos.  After a while, though, I wanted a better camera.  I realized that photography was becoming not only my passion, but my obsession.

So, my husband bought me a Nikon D40 digital SLR camera for my birthday.  I was outrageously excited!  Everywhere I went, especially anywhere outdoors, I had this camera around my neck.  I took thousands of photos with this camera. 

I couldn't carry my D40 around with me 24-7 because it was too bulky to put in my purse.  I really wanted a decent digital camera to carry around in my purse.  So, for my birthday in 2009, my Mom & Dad bought me a Nikon Coolpix camera.  I was totally excited to have a camera with me 24/7.  In September 2009, my purse got stolen at Walmart.  The thief spent thousands of dollars on my debit and credit cards, stole my ID, my keys, and my NEW CAMERA!  I was able to resolve the thefts on my credit and debit cards, get a replacement ID, and get my keys replaced fairly easily, but I was really upset about the loss of my birthday gift.  My husband saw my distress and bought me a replacement Nikon Coolpix camera.  He's such a sweet guy!

We were about 2 weeks from going on vacation in in February 2010.  I was at a baby shower taking photos with my Nikon D40 and I noticed that my auto focus wasn't working properly.  I had a service contract on the D40 through Best Buy.  Best Buy said it would take 4 weeks to get it repaired.  I nearly had a meltdown.  There was NO WAY I would ever go on vacation without my camera, but not having an auto focus made it difficult to take photos of wildlife.  There is lots of wildlife in Arizona (where we were going) and it hurt to imagine all of the photo opportunities I could possibly miss if I didn't have auto focus.  My wonderful husband, seeing my distress, took drastic measures....

I had been daydreaming about the Nikon D90 since it came out, but we couldn't really afford it.  The list price was $1299.  My husband took me to Best Buy to drop off my D40 for repairs, and while we were there, he bought me a D90!  I took about 2000 photos while on vacation in Arizona with my new camera.  I still have this camera and use it constantly.  Of course I'm always looking for the next bigger and better camera, but it can wait.

My best friend's husband had gotten an XBox 360 for Christmas in 2009.  I had played it a couple of times and I really enjoyed playing it.  So, for my birthday in 2010, my husband bought me an XBox 360.  I really enjoy playing military games like Call of Duty and Battlefield.  I usually play for a couple of hours on Sunday afternoons.  I think my husband plays more often than me.  He enjoys my birthday gift more than I do, I think.

In December 2010, we noticed that our old 31" television was starting to make this high-pitched squealing noise after it had been on for a couple of hours.  It was literally giving me a headache to try and watch TV.  My husband and I said we wouldn't upgrade to a new flat screen until our old TV stopped working.  Although it hadn't stopped working completely, the squealing noise was enough to aggravate us both into getting a new TV.  So, we bought a Sony Bravia 46" LCD TV.  I entered the world of HD TV and then scolded myself for waiting so long to upgrade.  The picture quality is AMAZING!  When we initially tried to hook-up our TV to our old surround sound (circa 2000), we quickly found a problem.  Our old home theater system has no HDMI inputs or outputs.  It's old school, so to speak.  We knew we were going to have to get a new home theater system. 

Best Buy had a Sony Blu Ray home theater system on sale.  It was in December, so it was close to Christmas.  This wasn't as expensive as I thought it would be.  And after buying a couple of HDMI cables, our new TV was connected to our digital cable, our Sony Blu Ray, and our XBox 360.  I was in Heaven!

I'm an avid reader.  When I first learned to read in elementary school, I would take home our readers that contained lots of stories and read the whole book in the course of a weekend.  As I got older, my reading obsession increased.  I had a teen book club membership and every month I would get a shipment of 10 new novels.  I would have all 10 read in a week or so, and then I would wait impatiently for the next shipment the following month.  I've always read books on my lunch break at work.  Every month I would buy 5-6 books at the flea market and read them in 1-hour increments at work.  I was laid-off from work in November 2009 until November 2010.  During that time, I was averaging 3-5 books per week.  My library card got a lot of use.  In the last couple of years, eReaders have become all the rage.  I liked the idea of an eReader, but I was also very fond of the feel of a book in my hands.  However, when I saw a TV ad for the Kindle Fire, I knew I wanted one.  Not only was it an eReader, but it is also like a tablet.  So, for Christmas in 2011, my husband bought me a Kindle Fire.  It has been my constant companion ever since. 

I've always wanted an iPhone.  As soon as I saw the ad for one, I had phone envy.  When they first arrived on the market, I definitely couldn't afford one.  In 2010, we renewed our cell phone contract.  I still only had mobile calling and text coverage.  I couldn't afford the data plan at the time since I was laid-off from work.  In February 2012, my contract expired and I saw my big opportunity!  So, I bought an iPhone 4S - 32GB.  Siri is my friend!  I think my husband has as much fun as I do asking Siri stupid questions to see how she will answer.  The smart folks at apple have programmed in some pretty funny responses.  Check out this link to some of Siri's funny responses to questions:  http://youtu.be/aj1pv3GKtZY

I have so many wonderful and cool tech items.  I feel so very blessed to have them.  I never take for granted the blessings in my life.  I feel very blessed that I was able to save the money needed to purchase these things. 

So, next week is my birthday.  My husband was asking me what my next electronic obsession would be, and to be honest, I'm not sure.  Does anyone have a suggestion?
 

I'm Hanging In There

I haven't abandoned you.  I've just been dealing with some interesting issues in my life recently and its taken a toll on me.  It's a long story, so I hope you have some time to spare. 

One day this past February, I was sitting at work doing my normal stuff when all of a sudden I got so dizzy that I thought I was going to pass out.  Then my arms started tingling and my palms started sweating.  I had to call my husband to come and get me from work.  The next day I went to the doctor and she told me I had a middle-ear infection and prescribed antibiotics.  I took my antibiotics and everything seemed to be fine.  A week later I was sitting with my husband watching a basketball game on a Friday night.  I started having the dizzy spells, tingling, and sweating again.  Plus, I was feeling a tightness in my chest and I felt like I couldn't catch my breath.  I tried to ignore the symptoms, but it wouldn't let up.  I got concerned that perhaps I was having a heart attack, so I had my husband take me to the emergency room.  They did an EKG and a CT scan of my head and they didn't see anything.  The doctor said that I probably had vertigo and prescribed Dramamine.  I continued to have these dizzy spells on and off so I just kept taking the Dramamine.  This went on for a few months.  I was beginning to suspect that I was having anxiety attacks, but since I had never experienced anything like this before, I really wasn't sure.

In August I started having the dizzy spells, tingling, and sweating more frequently, but I just tried to ignore the symptoms.  One day I was driving home from work and the dizziness hit me so hard that I thought I was going to pass out.  I pulled into a parking lot and called my Mom so someone would know where I was if I actually passed out.  Then the tingling arms and sweaty palms started.  I also got a tightness in my chest and started having chest pains.  Once I got a little less dizzy, I drove to pick-up my husband and then I had him drive me straight to the ER.  They did another EKG and a chest x-ray, but they didn't see anything.  They decided to admit me so they could monitor my heart overnight.  I spent a very uncomfortable night in the hospital being monitored, trying to eat terrible hospital food, and having my blood drawn every few hours.  The next morning I had a consultation with a cardiologist.  He said he thought I was having anxiety attacks, but he wanted to be absolutely sure to rule out any underlying heart condition.  So, I had an echo cardiogram, wore a holter monitor for 24 hours, and had a PET scan.  After all those expensive tests, my cardiologist determined that there is nothing wrong with my heart and I have developed a panic disorder.

This is a very strange turn of events for me.  I'm a very calm person by nature.  I don't yell and scream and I don't get worked up over things.  It feels like such a betrayal by my body when all of a sudden I'm scared out of my mind, dizzy, sweaty, tingling, and thinking I'm going to die.  It makes absolutely no sense.  I could just be sitting there reading a book and everything is fine and the next minute I'm having an anxiety attack.  Even when I wasn't having an anxiety attack, it felt like my bones were being rattled all of the time.  You know how you feel when you get really gold and get the chills?  Well, that's how I felt every minute of the day.  It was very disconcerting.

So, my primary care doctor prescribed Paxil and Xanax.  I take a half a Paxil a day and a half a Xanax as needed for breakthrough anxiety attacks.  I'm finally getting to where I can function and my bones don't feel like they're being rattled.  I still have a breakthrough attack about once a week, but its nothing that a half a Xanax can't handle. 

I hate that I have to be medicated to function, but I know I'm not alone.  There are millions of people out there who suffer from anxiety disorders.  It runs in my family, so I guess I can't escape genetics.

So, to explain my absence:  I've been really distracted the last few months.  I've hardly taken any photos and I haven't taken the time to post on my blog.  I miss my blogger friends, I just needed to get my health sorted out before I could wrap my mind around anything else.

I'm feeling much better these days and I'm ready to get back into the swing of things.  So, please hang in there with me.  I love it when people stop by my blog and read my posts and check out my photographs.  I'll be stopping in to read other blog posts from my friends soon. 

Leave a comment if you'd like.  I'd love to hear from you!

Feeling Blue

Yeah, I know I'm not posting often enough.  I've been going through a little funk lately.  It seems like all I do is work.  I have weekends off, but I spend those running errands, doing household chores, and maybe trying to spend a little quality time with my husband.  My week goes like this: 

Monday-Friday:  I'm up at 5:30 am to get ready for work.  I leave for work around 7 am and I get home at 6 pm.  Cameron and I try to figure out dinner, which takes anywhere from 30 minutes to an hour.  After dinner has been prepared and eaten, maybe I watch some TV and do a load of laundry.  11 pm is bedtime and the process starts all over again. 

Saturday and Sunday:  I try to get a little sleep to make up for the sleep deprivation I've suffered through all week.  I don't sleep well when I know an alarm clock is going to wake me.  I wake up repeatedly throughout the night and look at the stupid clock.  Saturday mornings I balance the checkbook, pay some bills, and run errands.  Saturday evenings I usually go to church and out to dinner with my hubby and maybe some friends.  After dinner, maybe we go over our friends' house to play cards or watch a movie, or we go home and watch a movie.  Sundays are spent doing laundry, cleaning house, and cutting grass. 

I feel like in a week that has 7 days, I only get Saturday night to have any fun.  I don't expect to be entertained constantly, but shouldn't I have more than a few hours each week to have fun?  I spend about 12 1/2 hours of each day getting ready to go to work, working, and driving to and from work.  I get about 4-5 hours each evening to myself, and those usually don't involve too many fun activities. 

I think one of my biggest problems is that I haven't had an opportunity to take any photos.  It's been well over 90 degrees with high humidity in Kentucky for most of the summer.  You can have a heat stroke very quickly, so I haven't been spending much time outdoors. 

Another one of my problems is that I always need to have something to look forward to, like an upcoming vacation, and I don't have that right now.  We usually go on vacation in February, but we've been saving up to buy a car.  If/when we find a car to purchase, we probably won't be able to afford a vacation after that expense.  That depresses me more than I can even express.  I live for our annual vacation, even though we usually just go visit relatives in Arizona.  I love to travel. 

I know that I have many blessings in my life.  I'm grateful for all the Lord has given me.  I just wish that I had some exciting plans to look forward to.  That is what seems to help me get through the day-to-day chores of every day life.  If I have something to plan and a trip to look forward to, then I'm a happy girl. 

We've been struggling to find a reasonably-priced used car.  The car market is ridiculous right now.  People want way too much for cars that are older with high mileage.  We need a dependable, somewhat fuel efficient, four-door sedan, with air conditioning.  Car shopping has not been an enjoyable experience thus far.  With the way the market is right now, I don't think it will get any better.

I feel like I spend so much time working that I don't get to enjoy life.  Is life really supposed to be this way?

Blue Bird on a Fence

Blue Bird Watching Me

     
Right now I feel about as blue as this bird.  I know its a temporary thing.  I'll get over it.  I just need something fun in my life.  The Kentucky State Fair is coming up next week, so that should be fun.  Plus, my husband's birthday is on Friday.  I'm sure we'll do something fun this weekend to celebrate.  I just really wish I had a vacation planned.  Besides loving the Lord and my family, traveling and taking photos of beautiful places is what brings peace and joy in my life.  I could really use some of that right now. 

Wedding Photography

Yes, I know its been a few weeks since my last post.  Its been really busy for me the last few weeks.  Between weddings, graduations, household chores, work, groceries, and life's every day obstacles, it feels like I've hardly had time to breathe.  Please hang in here with me.  I promise not to desert you, even if it takes me a couple of weeks to put up a new post.  I like to try and put up a post at least once a week, but as you've gathered, that doesn't usually work out so well for me. 

On May 6th I photographed a wedding for my brother-in-law's cousin, Angie.  It was only my 2nd time photographing a wedding and I was extremely nervous.  I also photographed the bridal shower, the wedding rehearsal, and I followed the bride the entire day of the wedding.  It was a lot of fun and a lot of work.  I took over 1400 photos and it took me several days to sort through and edit them.  I'm always of the mindset that I'd rather take too many shots of the same pose than risk taking only one or two shots of a pose and someone blinks or moves and the shot is ruined.  All in all I think the photos turned out pretty good and the bride and her mother were pleased, so that's the most important thing.

Usually, after I take photos, I upload them to my laptop and then I back them up to a 1.5TB external hard drive.  I especially want to make sure that the portraits and wedding photos I do for people are protected.  I noticed that the hard drive on my laptop was almost completely full, so I decided that I would backup my external hard drive online with Carbonite so that I could delete most of the photos off my laptop.  My external hard drive is hooked up to an older desktop and networked wirelessly to my laptop.  After I paid for and downloaded the Carbonite software to my desktop, I quickly found out that you can't backup an external hard drive with Carbonite.  After a stressful call to tech support, this fact was confirmed.  So, after some discussion with my husband, I ended up buying a new 1.5TB desktop computer.  Now I can safely upload the photos onto the desktop and back them up on the Carbonite online software.  So, buyer beware...you can't back up an external hard drive with Carbonite. 

These are the wedding photos of Angie and Joel.

The Dress

The Back of the Dress



The Bride and Bridesmaids



The Bride and the Fussy Flower Girl

Kids are so funny.  This is my niece, Raelee.  She is 2 (soon to be 3).  At the rehearsal dinner she informed us that she WAS NOT going to walk with her cousin, Dallas (the ring-bearer), in the wedding and she WAS NOT going to have her photo taken.  She also said she WAS NOT going to throw flower petals on the ground.  She lived up to her word at the rehearsal dinner and had to be carried through the rehearsal.  She also had to be carried through the pre-wedding rehearsal.  However, minutes before the ceremony, the bride (Angie) made a deal with Raelee.  If Raelee would walk with Dallas in the wedding, Angie would do the chicken dance with her at the reception.  Much to our amazement, Raelee walked hand-in-hand with Dallas through the aisle, down the stairs, and stood next to her mom, Wendy, who was one of the bridesmaids.  She DID NOT throw any petals on the ground.  If she accidentally dropped a petal, she would stop and pick it up and put it back in her basket.  She stood next to her mom for a few minutes, then she decided she was bored and wanted to visit with the bride's father, Timmy.  She sat on his lap for a while, then she got down and untied his shoes and then tried to tie them back for him.  She would turn over her basket and dump the flower petals on the ground.  Then she would gather them up and put them back in the basket.  After a while, she walked up the stairs and went to sit with my mom (grandma).  She didn't cry and although she wandered off the plan a bit, she was so cute that no one minded the diversion from the plan.  One thing she would not budge on is photos (as evidenced by this photo above).  She DID NOT want her photo taken and made a huge fuss about it.  This is actually one of my favorite photos from the entire photo shoot.  We all couldn't help but smile at Raelee's refusal to cooperate for the photos.  You'll notice her absence in the remaining photos.  And yes, the bride did live up to her promise and did the chicken dance.  Raelee refused to dance.  As they say, kids will be kids.      


The Groom and the Groomsmen




The Wedding Party




The Bride and Groom at the top of the Stairs




Angie and Joel



The Ring

The Kiss

A Peck on the Bride's Cheek

A Kiss Under Cover



Mr. and Mrs. Rhea




Angie and Joel by the Lake

 

Angie and Joel - Unity


This past weekend I photographed my cousin, Nicole's wedding.  After I finish editing those photos, I'll put up a few shots of those as well.

Leave a comment and let me know what you think.  Thanks for stopping by!

The Last Legal Form of Descrimination

In this country it is illegal to discriminate against someone based on their race, religion, sex, age, disability, or sexual orientation.  However, it is still perfectly legal to discriminate against someone because of their weight.  How is this possible?  Why are overweight people excluded from the protection of the law? 

I was reading a blog post last week from Shrinking Kenz where she discussed how she and her mother were publicly humiliated by Southwest Airlines employees because of their weight. 

Nothing will tear down an overweight person like publicly making fun of or drawing attention to our weight.  A Southwest Airlines employee in Phoenix, Arizona publicly humiliated me in front of hundreds of other passengers.  I was so mortified by the experience that I never reported it or even discussed it with anyone.  After reading Kenz's post about her experience, I think its time I talked about my experience.

A few years ago, my husband and I traveled via Southwest Airlines from Louisville, Kentucky to Phoenix, Arizona.  We travel to Arizona every year to visit family in Tucson.  Before travelling, I looked up Southwest Airlines policy about overweight passengers.  Their policy essentially states that if your hips will fit in the seat with the armrests down, then you don't need to purchase another seat.  My hips fit in the seat, but the seat belts don't always fit and I sometimes need a seat belt extension.  I had flown from Louisville to Phoenix with no problems.  However, while we were waiting for our return flight from Phoenix to Louisville, the end of my vacation turned into a nightmare.

I was sitting in a crowded area at the boarding gate in Phoenix Sky Harbor Airport.  My husband and I were chatting about our vacation when a thin blond woman approached me.  She was a Southwest employee.  She stood over me and then bent over and peered down at me like I was a child.  Then she announced in front of everyone "You will probably have to buy another seat because you won't fit in just one seat."  I WAS MORTIFIED!  I tried to be calm and I said, "I fit in the seat.  I flew out here a week ago on Southwest and I didn't have a problem."  This didn't appease her.  Her response was, "That doesn't matter.  It is MY determination on whether or not you will fit in the seat.  I get to decide if you need another seat or not."  Then she began telling me that I would have to pre-board so that she could see if I fit in the seat or not.  I told her again that I didn't have a problem when I flew out the previous week and I knew I fit in the seat, but she kept telling me it was "her decision" on whether or not I could fit in the seat.  It didn't matter what had happened the previous week.  At this point I was crying because I was so embarrassed.  She just kept lecturing me about how "she" had to make the decision if I needed another seat and it didn't matter what had happened the previous week.  The she made me get up in front of everyone and walk on the plane with her so she could "see for herself" if I fit in the seat.  After meeting HER requirements, she didn't even apologize for humiliating me in front of all of the other passengers.  I cried the entire flight home.  All 4 hours of it.  I was so humiliated.  I was just devastated.  (Also, it turns out after reading a follow up post by Kenz, a Southwest representative told her that if you were allowed to fly without purchasing a second seat on a flight, then they couldn't require you to purchase an additional seat on a return flight.  Apparently, the employees at Southwest aren't even familiar with the company policies and they make their own determinations based on their own biases about overweight people.) 

What made the situation even worse is that everyone looked at me as they got on the plane.  There was a very large man sitting at the gate with us and she NEVER SAID A WORD TO HIM.  He was much taller than me and much rounder than me, but she never approached him about having to purchase another seat. 

It wouldn't have been so devastating if she had approached me quietly and asked me to come to the ticket counter or to step aside somewhere to discuss the situation.  Instead, she leered over me like she was disciplining a child and her voice got louder every time I tried to explain that I had flown out the week before with no problems.  It was the most humiliating experience of my life.  I was so upset by the ordeal that I couldn't even work up the nerve to call and report her behavior.  I just wanted to forget about it.  The only problem is I HAVE NEVER FORGOTTEN ABOUT IT.

I'm not trying to get anything from Southwest by posting this.  I'm just trying to bring awareness to the last legal form of discrimination in this country: weight discrimination.  It happens every day in this country and its time for it to stop.  Obese people have feelings too. 

I know that there are jobs that I didn't get because people made assumptions about my work ethic based on my weight.  Or maybe they just don't like fat people.  You can see the look on their face and know that no matter how qualified you are for the position, YOU WILL NEVER GET THE JOB.  And unless they say "You aren't going to get this job because you are fat", there is no way to prove they are disciriminating against you.  And even if they did say that to you, technically the law doesn't cover weight-based discrimination.  You can only hope to get it covered under the disability discrimination law, and that is probably unlikely to happen.  

I know this happens to people every day in this country.  Its not okay to discriminate against people because they have a disability.  Its not okay to make fun of people who have an alcohol or drug addiction.  Why is it still okay to make fun of someone who has an endocrine disorder or a food addiction?  Food addiction is the same as a drug or alcohol addiction.  People overeat to soothe emotional pain.  If you make fun of an overweight person or lecture them about their weight, all that happens is that they turn to eating to soothe the emotional pain they are feeling.  It is my opinion that a food addiction may be worse than a drug or alcohol addiction.  With drugs and alcohol, you can quit them completely.  You can't just quit eating.  Imagine being a drug addict and someone telling you to only take 3 hits a day.  Could you stop at 3?  Well, that is what a compulsive over eater has to deal with.  A compulsive over eater can't just stop eating completely.  They have to try and limit themselves to 3 small meals a day.  If you factor in a thyroid disease like hypothyroidism, which slows down your metabolism (which I have), and an endocrine disorder like polycystic ovarian syndrome (PCOS) which makes your metabolism almost non-existent and turns food directly into fat (which I also have), and then you add in someone who eats to soothe pain, then you have an obese person.  As an adult, I've learned to eat healthier foods in small portions, but because of my thyroid disease and PCOS, it still makes losing weight very difficult for me.  Please take a moment and click on the links above about these diseases and educate yourself about what other conditions may factor into keeping someone obese. 

Please stop making fun of or telling jokes about overweight or obese people.  It is hurtful and humiliating to them.  It is just another form of bullying and discrimination.  We are people too.  We deserve the respect that everyone else is afforded. 

I know that there are people who are discriminated against because of their race or sexual orientation despite the existing laws to protect them, but it is generally not socially acceptable to do these types of things.  People frown on it and therefore it doesn't happen as often.  However, it seems that it is still socially acceptable to make fun of fat people because its their own fault, right?  Well, it isn't always their fault.  And even if they are overweight because of a food addiction, you don't know what has happened in their lives to cause them to turn to food to soothe the emotional pain they feel.  Don't just assume that obese people are lazy and eat all day.  That may not be the case at all.  And even if it is, they may be depressed or emotionally hurting and that is the reason why they eat.  Help them, don't hurt them by making fun of them, cracking jokes about fat people, or singling them out in front of hundreds of people in a crowded room.

PLEASE STOP DISCRIMINATION AND BULLYING AGAINST OVERWEIGHT OR OBESE PEOPLE!!

Butterfly Feeding on a Flower

Somewhere inside the cocoon of weight there is a butterfly waiting to emerge in every obese person.  Please help them to find that butterfly. 

I'd love to hear your thoughts on this subject.  Please leave a comment.

Happy Birthday To Me

Today is my 36th birthday.  This morning I woke up, took a shower, and got ready for work as usual.  As I was getting ready to leave to go to work, I stepped in the bathroom to grab my glasses and took a glance in the mirror.  I've been pretty fortunate in that I've escaped the crows feet around the eyes that plague my family (so far, anyway), but there are two visible signs that I am aging:  1) Random gray hairs are appearing on my head; and 2) I seem to be losing collagen under my eyes so they look sunken in.  Its pretty depressing overall.  I was lamenting the fact that I was losing collagen under my eyes this morning and Cameron replies, "Well you should have went to COLLEGE N you wouldn't have that problem."  Ha ha, very funny honey.  Then he suggested that if it bothered me I should get Botox.  I'm just not an artificial kind of girl and I can't see myself getting injections of Botchulism in my face.  It just doesn't seem like a good idea. 

I know that aging is going to happen and I think in the scheme of things, the bags under my eyes should be the thing about my body that worries me the least.  However, having been an overweight person for most of my life, I always felt like my only presentable bodily asset was my face.  So, of course you can understand my displeasure at seeing my youth fade away.  I have learned to accept myself as I am as I've gotten older, but I still always want to look my best.  Oh well, vanity is pointless, I guess.  I should concentrate on more important things like family, friends, Jesus, and serving others.  Those are the really important things in life.  Not the silly bags under my eyes or my graying hair. 

It's been a crazy couple of months for me.  There have been family birthdays, the Kentucky Derby, parties, showers, and a wedding.  Last weekend I photographed my 2nd wedding.  I was very nervous because I always want to get the best photos possible.  I took over 1400 photos, which is a bit excessive, but that's what I do.  I always want to make sure I have multiple shots of the same pose in case someone blinks or frowns or moves or something.  The mother of the bride and I took a preliminary look at the photos on Saturday and they look good.  I'm pleased with how they turned out.  I hope to put up a few of the shots once I have finished sorting and editing the photos, which may be in a week or two.

In the mean time, I'm going to post a few photos from my road trip last summer.  These are photos I took in the great state of Arizona. 

Fire-damaged Tree in the Catalina Mountains

In 2003 or 2004 (I can't remember for sure), there was a very large fire in the Catalina Mountains that burned acres and acres of forest and completely destroyed the little town of Summerhaven on top of Mount Lemmon.  Summerhaven is beginning to rebound and the trees are growing again, but here and there you still see these trees that were ravaged by that devastating fire.

Wet Plant after a Rain Shower in Madera Canyon

Ski Valley on Mount Lemmon

Mountain Stream in Madera Canyon

Stream in Madera Canyon

Rocky Waterfall on Mount Lemmon

These photos were taken in Madera Canyon in the Santa Rita Mountains to the south of Tucson and in Summerhaven on Mount Lemmon in the Santa Catalina Mountains to the north of Tucson.  Tucson is generally pretty dry and you don't see many running streams or rivers unless there is a pretty heavy monsoon rain.  However, you can often find running streams in the mountain ranges surrounding Tucson.  When I lived there, going into the Catalina Mountains was almost like going back to Kentucky for a little while.  It always made me homesick, but I love every moment up in the mountains.  Cameron and I used to go up the Catalina Mountain Highway and stop at look-out vistas and have picnics at different scenic views.  We still do that when we go back to visit every year.  I have lots of fond memories of Arizona.  You should visit Arizona if you ever get a chance.  It's beautiful there!

Until we meet again, thanks for visiting and leave a comment.

Yes, I'm Still Alive

I've been crazy-busy lately, but I'm hoping to post some photos in the next few days.  I just photographed a wedding over the weekend and as soon as I sort through them all, I'll get some up here.

Right now I'm reading a new book suggested by my friend, Lauren.  It's called "It Sucked and then I Cried."  I just started reading it today, but its a memoir from a fellow blogger, Heather B. Armstrong.  I'll let you know how it is after I've finished reading it.

Please stand by for new photos and more of my meaningless rambling coming soon to a blog near you .... 

Back to Colorado

It's springtime here in Kentucky.  It's my favorite time of the year.  As I drive to and from work I see trees blooming in white, pink, purple, and yellow.  It's gorgeous!  Hopefully, it won't rain too much this weekend and I'll be able to get out and get some photographs before the blooms are replaced with various shades of green foliage.  Yesterday it rained ALL day in Louisville.  Today the sun is making a reappearance, but I have so much to do that it is unlikely that I'll have time to take any photos.  I've got a severe case of spring fever right now and I'm itching to be outside in the lovely spring weather.  That is if it will stop raining on the weekends!

If I can get a clear weekend or even a few hours on a sunny weekday, then you will soon see some photos of the spring foliage of Kentucky.

In the mean time, here are some more photos of Colorado from my road trip last summer for your enjoyment.

Mountain Lake and Green Hills

Colorado Landscape

Colorado Log Cabin

Colorado Log Cabin in Black & White

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Arizona

Our final destination on our road trip across the USA last year was Tucson, Arizona.  My husband, Cameron (aka Eric to his family and co-workers), is from Arizona.  I lived there with Cameron for about 2 years before we moved back to Kentucky to be near my family.  If you don't know the story of how I met my husband, just click here. 

I love Arizona and I miss it dearly when I'm not there.  If I could only convince my family to move there with me, I'd go back there in a moment's notice without hesitation.  Of course, if I moved back to Arizona, then I'd miss Kentucky (as was the case when I lived in Arizona).  I'm caught between the love of two cities about 1800 miles apart from one another. 

Each year my husband and I travel to Arizona to visit his parents and his brother, who live in Tucson.  Every year we talk about going to California to visit my sister-in-law, but we always go to Arizona.  I think both of us get a little homesick for Tucson, so it always wins out.

One of my favorite things about Arizona is the sunsets.  When the sun sets behind the mountains and the skies light up in pinks, oranges, and reds, it is just spectacular.  The only sunset that can compare is when the sun sets over the ocean (at least that is my opinion - I'm sure you may have your own choice of the most beautiful sunset).  Here are just a few of some of my favorite Arizona sunset moments:

Sunset Looking at the Santa Rita Mountains

The Santa Rita Mountains are at the southern edge of the city of Tucson.  The city is surrounded by four mountain ranges.  The Santa Catalina Mountains to the north, the Rincon Mountains to the east, the Tucson Mountains to the West, and the Santa Rita Mountains to the south.  When I took this photo, I was at a scenic lookout on the Santa Catalina Mountains looking south.

Sunset in Northern Arizona

I took this photo in northeastern Arizona.  We had just left Colorado and I think we were driving west on Highway 160 somewhere near Red Mesa, Arizona.

Sunset over the Mountains in Northern Arizona

I think this photo was also taken somewhere on Highway 160.  We were driving west to get to Highway 191, which goes south to I-40.

Sunset over Tucson with a Storm Moving In

In Tucson, from July to September, the monsoon rains come in every day sometime around 5 pm (sometimes later).  This photo was taken from my mother-in-law's backyard (facing northwest) as a summer monsoon storm was moving in. 

Storm Clouds Spilling Over the Rincon Mountains

These clouds were just amazing!  I could literally watch the storm moving in from the east and spilling over the top of the Rincon Mountains (looking east).  The sun was setting to the west and the effect was spectacular!

Stormy Sunset with a Rainbow

 
This photo was also taken from my mother-in-law's backyard, looking northeast.  The sun was setting and storm was moving in.  You could feel the humidity in the air and hear the thunder rumbling.  Rainbows are a fairly common occurrence in the desert because you have such a clear view for miles and miles as the sun sets.

We are hoping to get back to Arizona this fall.  We typically go in February, but since I had just started working again, we didn't think it would be advisable to take a vacation.  These photos make me nostalgic and I hope we can get back to Arizona soon. 

I'll be posting more photos of my home-away-from-home, Tucson, Arizona, in my upcoming blog entries. 

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